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I have a friend visiting
from Australia in August. She will be staying 3 weeks with me. I
have a lot of places we are going site seeing etc. I was
wondering what is the proper etiquette for paying for things
like admissions to parks, museum, etc. We will also be staying
in a hotel a couple of nights. Should I be responsible for the
whole hotel bill or only half and do I pay for her way into all
the places we go that have an admission charge? I want to be a
good host so any help you and give me would be greatly
appreciated. -- thanks diane
I would never expect a friend that was kind enough to host
me for three weeks to also foot the bill – my feeling as a
guest is that my host is already being nice enough to let me
intrude on their living space and their no doubt very precious
time – I’d feel terrible if I also knew that my visit was
putting a huge dent in their wallet. As a host, I would
certainly plan to be spending a little more than usual on food
and drink for the house, and gas for the car to get us around to
all the sights, but beyond that, I’m of the opinion that costs
should generally be split two-ways, with each person paying
their own way. It would certainly be ultra-hospitable of you to
offer an all-expense paid vacation to your guest, but by no
means do I think that it’s necessary to go to such extremes in
order to be a good host.
friend a few good meals, make her feel welcome in your home,
share your expertise of the area by bringing her around to all
the fun and interesting tourist sights, and pay for the
occasional museum visit or lunch if you’re so inclined. But
the only thing that’s really required as the good host is that
you let her know how happy you are that she’s taken the time
to fly out all this way to spend time with you. Indulge in lots
of long, wonderful conversations and share plenty of laughs, and
I’m sure that both you, and she, will enjoy a fabulous visit.
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