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the bride's ten commandments how
to plan a wedding and keep your friends too by
Stacy Conradt | 1 2 3 continued from page 1 II. Thou shalt not force hideous dresses on your friends and tell them that they can wear it again. Despite your best intentions, your friends aren't going to dye the dresses black and wear them again. They might get another use out of them at Halloween, but that's probably it. If you really want to spare them from a one-time-use expensive dress, have them all get a black dress of their choice. You might specify certain features, like hem length and whether you want them to go sleeveless or not. You can still get your wedding colors in via flowers or wraps. If you want to go the colored dress route, you can still use the same technique. Just get a swatch of the color you want (to prevent some showing up in hunter green and some showing up in seafoam) and let them do their own shopping. III. Thou shalt not require matching makeup. "Matching makeup?" you're probably thinking. "That's crazy.'" Yes, yes it is. But it's been done. Just to make things clear, just because the dresses are periwinkle blue doesn't mean the eye shadow has to be in the same color family. Your friends know what they look best in -- as long as they aren't going for circus clown, let them decide what shades to put on their faces. IV. Honor your bridesmaids' other plans. Just because your whole life revolves around your wedding doesn't mean theirs do. Chances are your friends will make every effort to attend all festivities. But if someone can't make one of your four showers, don't berate them for it. If they do come to multiple showers, it might be nice of you to let them know you don't expect four separate gifts. V. Thou shalt not inflict dyed-to-match shoes on your maids. They're always painful, never cute and never in a shade that will match anything else in their closets. Have everyone buy a pair of shoes in a style of their choosing in the appropriate color -- black, gold, silver, etc. If you need to specify a couple of details, like heel height or closed toe vs. open toe, you can do that. VI. Thou shalt not demand a bachelorette party. We're all at different walks in our lives, and your friends might not be able to afford to fly to Vegas and buy you $15 drinks every ten minutes. If you know your maids are a little strapped for cash, suggest a fun night at home watching Sex and the City or 80s teen angst movies while drinking margaritas and eating fondue. Did you really want to spend the evening wearing a Suck for a Buck t-shirt, anyway? keep sidling this-a-way kids... ---------------------------> lounge . nourish . host . laze . home . |
