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Don’t wear all white.
This much should be obvious – unless you’re the one
standing next to the groom when the minister makes the pronouncement of
man and wife, you shouldn’t be wearing a white dress. Or an ivory
dress, or a cream dress, or anything else that might be perceived as
remotely bridal in appearance.
Take note of the time.
If an invitation hasn’t specified a dress code at all – black tie,
for instance – use the time of the ceremony as a guideline for proper
dress. Your sleek blue floor-length cocktail dress will look rather
silly at a ceremony that begins at 11 am; a classic black tuxedo will
make you look more like a member of the wedding party than a guest, if
the ceremony begins at 1 in the afternoon. In general, daytime weddings
call for more casual garb than evening weddings. Not that this means you
should ever show up at a wedding in your day-to-day beat-up sandals, or
any other article of clothing that makes it clear you didn’t put any
thought at all into rendering yourself presentable. Unless a wedding is
explicitly billed as casual – or the wedding in question is taking
place underwater, on a hot air balloon, after a trek to a mountaintop,
or under similarly extraordinary circumstances – a nice dress and
heels (or dressy flats) are always appropriate for those of the female
persuasion. As for you boys, jacket and tie are the bare minimum on the
formality scale, but a suit is almost always the better bet. And please,
unless you’ve made a deliberate decision to get some beard action
going there, pick up the razor and shave.
in Rome …
The location of a wedding provides another good clue-in as to
what you ought to wear. A reception at a historic mansion, for instance,
calls for something formal to suit the stateliness of the surrounds,
more elaborate attire than, say one would wear to a wedding on a beach.
A garden party at the family’s summer farm? Ditch the suede
spike heels and floor-length evening gowns in favor of pretty, flowy
dresses, and shoes that can withstand a little mud.
Remember: grandmothers will be in attendance.
There’s dressing up for a night of swanky bar-hopping, and then
there’s dressing up for weddings. Anything too low in the top, too
high on the bottom, too shiny, too loud, too tight, or too scary to be
viewed in broad daylight, is best saved for the former occasions and
avoided altogether for the latter. Likewise, while the lush in you may
be tempted to overindulge in the presence of an open bar, be sensible.
Pleasantly happy drunk –