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If it doesn’t offend your beliefs too horribly, however – and you
possess the ability to have fun even when surrounded by inebriated
buddies saying/doing things that aren’t nearly as clever and hilarious
as they, in their "happy" state, think they are – it might
not be a bad idea to add an explicit "Bring whatever beverages you’d
like to imbibe" to your party invitations, to give guests the
option of providing their own booze. Assuming you’re inviting mostly
friends, they probably already know and respect your feelings towards
alcohol, and wouldn’t expect you to stock up, anyway, so adding the
BYO addendum makes you seem like a gracious host – considerate of
other people’s personal drinking preferences – without forcing you
to throw away your money on something that makes you uncomfortable.
wedding receptions ...
Q: My boyfriend and I recently got engaged, a very
big deal for both our families since we are both the eldest
kids. We aren't the "big traditional wedding" sort of
folk so we've decided to fly to Hawaii and say our "I
do's" on a secluded beach, just the two of us. Part of our
reason for deciding this plan (besides the obvious Pavlov
response I display when mentioning Hawaii), is that I come from
a gargantuan Irish-Italian Catholic family of breeders. I am the
eldest of 37 grandchildren on my dad's side alone.
So as to include our families in
our celebration, we've decided on throwing a paired down, less
formal reception when we get back. What started out as a
backyard bbq has quickly turned into the big, gaudy fiasco I was
trying to avoid. My biggest dilemma is this: How can I
tastefully stress that this is a "no children" affair?
I know, I know, you're thinking "bite your lip and let the
kids come", but as I said, there would be some 40+ kids and
I don't think I can handle all the little tykes running around
Also, while I come from a huge family, my fiancé comes from one
of the smallest families. Only his parents, one brother and 2
aunts and a grandfather would make up his side, so it would
really be like 70 people on my side and 6 on his. That just
seems awkward. What should I do? I don't want to hurt my
extended families' feelings, but jeez louise! I don't want my
"small" reception to be a scene from Kindergarten Cop
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