You irritate the shit out of me sometimes. And sometimes you act like a total jerk. Why can't you still be the way you were all those years ago when you were trying to get in my pants? Cuz if I'd have known how much you were going to change, you'd have seen the smoke from my shoes a long time ago.

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Originally posted by Princessjeanne:
World of Warcraft has also joined our household. Damn the boy's brother for buying it. We actually got into a fight last night about it! We NEVER fight, ever. And it was about a game! Ugh.

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Aaaah, see, we are no stranger to game fights 'round these parts. I have no problems with gaming in and of itself -- I'm a big nerd, actually, and enjoy me an RPG now and again. Quite a lot. However, the difference between when I play a game and when boy plays a game is this: I seem to be able to remember, where he cannot, that there is also a REAL world surrounding us, in which we have duties and obligations. Playing a game for a few hours in one sitting is ok now and again. Doing it EVERY DAY, as in FROM WHEN YOU GET HOME FROM WORK until WHEN YOU GO TO BED, and all weekend, is not. I am a real human person here, and I need your attention. Not all of it, all of the time, but dammit, I do need it! It's about priorities -- if I'm feeling lonely and, um, in need of love, and you haven't eaten, and the cats haven't eaten, and the dishes are piled up that you SWORE YESTERDAY you would do before you went to bed, then it DOESN'T MATTER that your f'ing gnome can't go after the asshole trolls yet because he's only a level 10. See?

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Originally posted by abrokenangelwing:
Actions speak REALLY DAMN loud.

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Here, here! It seems like I'm not alone in having a mate who thinks that his existence in my life is a good enough showing of his love. I think so many guys would be in a state of shock if their girlfriends/wives stopped doing all the shit they take for granted.

I seem to be alternating between the love/hate threads these days......Today?

Me, 6:10 PM. Calls boy on cell, as he has said he *might* play poker with people from work, or *might* go over to another friend's place. I have had a VERY bad day, and just want to talk to him and see whether he'll be home when I get there.

Boy: Hey.

Me: Hi.

Boy: *sounding annoyed and brush-offy* What's up?

Me: hears a bunch of people I was just wondering if you'd be home when I get home, since you said you might go out.

Boy: even more short and irritated-sounding and brush-offy Yeah, yeah, I'll be home.

Me: irritated at his tone as all I wanted was to talk to him for 5 minutes as I was already practically in tears over my day at work Are you BUSY?

Boy: Well, I'm playing POKER! in a tone that suggests I should have KNOWN that

Me: thinks - well you said you MIGHT you bastard I don't know where you are don't sound so f***ing pissy at ME because you don't want to talk to your WOMAN in front of your NEW FABULOUS WORK FRIENDS - says - BYE. Hangs up.

So, anyway, Mr. yeah-yeah-I'll-be-home-when-you-get-home, it's now 1 AM and I've been home for 4 and a half hours. I will now go to bed alone and pissed. I would LIKE to know where you are but damn if I'm going to call you to find out, I wouldn't want to DISTURB you or anything, so GOODNIGHT, f***er.

Edited to add: F***er!!!!!!

Fast forward 2 hours later, he stumbles in drunk as sh!t babbling on about being a good samaritan. He woke me up, scared the crap out of me, and tries to hold a conversation like I'm awake.

Fast forward to the morning when I'm getting up for work and he's moaning about how sick he is, and gets pissy when I ask him why he got home 2 hours later than he had said and how did he get home? Sorry for caring and worrying about you wandering around downtown with buttloads of other drunk people! Not like you'd freak out if I did the same! Grrr.

Remember that stupid Palm Pilot you *had* to have? USE IT. Stop telling me you don't need to write things down. You will forget and then you'll say I'm a nag when I get really irritated.

Stop defending your stupid incompetent employer. What the hell is in that for you, anyway?

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Originally posted by bekkaboo:
OK. I hate to show up here 2 nights in a row, but......

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Originally posted by Eckerslie:
I swing between wanting to marry him and have children, to wanting to become a lesbian and/or join a nunnery.

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You know,I often think that it would be so much easier to be a lesbian...except for that whole sex with women part.

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Originally posted by Muse:
Dear R-We have been together for over 5 years now. We have been living together for 4 1/2 years. I expected by now that you would realize that when I have a migraine it is not acceptable for you to...

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phew!, thank you

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Originally posted by Jezabel:
You know,I often think that it would be so much easier to be a lesbian...except for that whole sex with women part.

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Originally posted by Eckerslie:
I was saying to J the other night that this forum really helps me to embrace the fact that I swing between wanting to marry him and have children, to wanting to become a lesbian and/or join a nunnery. It's normal I think...

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Um, I lived in a nunnery(convent)--I wasn't a nun, but I really wouldn't recommend it to anybody. Unless, of course, God comes down and like writes it right in front of you! Seriously, I respect people who can live that way, but it's a super hard life. The whole constant communication with God/leaving the world etc. is really really tiring. Although, strangely, God never really argues back, which is kind of nice.

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Originally posted by Jezabel:
You know,I often think that it would be so much easier to be a lesbian...except for that whole sex with women part.

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Anyway today's whinge - J is having lunch with his ex K on Friday. I don't care about this on the obvious level as I don't feel threatened by her and I encouraged him to hang with her.

What gets up my nose though is that he won't make plans with me for this (long) weekend but falls into her plans at the drop of a hat. He says if I make plans he'll go along with them... then forgets he agreed to go to a birthday dinner on Saturday night with me. He can't see that I don't want to make plans and have him fall into them. I want "us" to plan stuff.

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Originally posted by TinyGirl:
Um, I lived in a nunnery(convent)--I wasn't a nun, but I really wouldn't recommend it to anybody.

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Originally posted by gemini:
Okay, so this is a complete hijack of the thread and totally none of my business to boot, but I am [b]so curious about this! If you're in a sharin' sort of mood, feel free to share some details![/B]

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1. I spent $1200 reregistering and reinsuring my car yesterday. It's a car that I've driven about 10 times in the past 3 months because yours isn't on the road. I am being *really* patient about it seeing as it's MY car, and I am catching the bus to work and so on so you can stay employed but you are an inconsiderate jerk.

2. I've been at work since 8am. I have had a SHIT of a day and you darn well know it.

So calling me at 4:50pm, when you're across town and KNOW it will take you an hour to get to pick me up from work, does NOT put me in a good mood. Knowing you got paid today does also not thrill me when you owe me a LOT of $$ and you want to go out with your buddy. Having said buddy come along with you to pick me up just pisses me off and delays me getting agro at me.

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Originally posted by crowjoy:
It's not easier, the challenges are all still the same: finding someone who you can love, who loves and *respects* you, and with whom you share values and goals is just as hard in any language.

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Oh great...destroy the fantasy, will ya? Of course I was only kidding, I know all relationships take mutual work and respect. Then again, I bet Mander never leaves the toilet seat up!

E,

I was pretty upset on Saturday when you went to the bar with your buddies after skiing. I don't mind you going out with your friends, but I expected you home around 8:30 and I was waiting for you. When you didn't call, I had to call your dad to find out where you are, which I really do not like to do.

What really bothers me is that we've had similar discussions before. It is important for me to know if your plans change, so that I can change my plans too. Maybe I've miscommunicated this need to you, but I felt that you understood what I wanted. So when you don't call me when your plans change, I feel like you are disrespecting me and my wishes.

Please think about this seriously. I know you like to have a lot of personal freedom and I am trying to respect that. But if it's too much to keep me up to date on what you're doing, then maybe we need to think about making our relationship a little less serious.

Mr. Man, I know you have a crazy schedule. I understand that. You have friends other than me. Also fine, very healthy, etc. But if you're always saying that you can't hang out with me or sleep next to me during the week because you want to be well rested, then proceed to hang out with your friends until an HOUR before you have to get up for work, that's a whole other story.

Ooh, also, little piece of advice: If you tell me you can't go to a gathering with me because you need to catch up on your sleep, then subsequently decide to play poker with your friends, and I should happen to call you while you're surrounded by a bunch of loud poker-playing guys, don't answer the damn phone! I mean, obviously, my first choice would be for you to not be an inconsiderate prick in the first place, but come on, do you have to be an idiot too?

Hmm. Apparently I'm still venting...

(Edited to fix a typo)

I'm tired of fighting with the X-box for E's attention. And we haven't even had it for 1 month. And, I'm tired of doing all these little things for him, trying to be a good girlfriend, and he doesn't return the same courtesy to me. Today I bought E something at the store; just something little, to show him I was thinking of him. Then I remembered how, at the intermission of the play last night, his friend had to remind him that it might be nice to get me a beer as well...I had actually gone up to the bar with the idea of getting us both a beer, but he beat me to it. But he just got a beer for himself. So it made me feel like, why do I even bother buying stuff for him? He never buys me stuff, except for Christmas and birthday. I would return what I bought him, except that I already told him about it and that seems really nasty.

And I'm getting really tired of waiting to get married. WTH? When I ask him about it (which is so hard for me to do), he says he wants to be with me. So what are we waiting for?

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Originally posted by squirrel:
And, I'm tired of doing all these little things for him, trying to be a good girlfriend, and he doesn't return the same courtesy to me.

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AAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

Ok, you can uncover them now.

How theraputic--since I can't actually do that in my Cube. sigh.

edited by yee-fan to shorten the Ahhh so it fits on screen

Dear Mr. Drea D,

It would be really nice if the very first thing you said to me in the morning when you open your eyes is, "Good morning", or "hi"; rather than "I slept like shit" or "my throat hurts". While I'm sorry you're having issues, seriously, it's a big downer for me to have negativity and complaints be the very first things I hear EVERY. SINGLE. MORNING.

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Originally posted by Drea D:
Dear Mr. Drea D,

It would be really nice if the very first thing you said to me in the morning when you open your eyes is, "Good morning", or "hi"; rather than "I slept like shit" or "my throat hurts". While I'm sorry you're having issues, seriously, it's a big downer for me to have negativity and complaints be the very first things I hear EVERY. SINGLE. MORNING.

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I tried to explain the whole beer issue to him, and it went right over his head. He thought it was about $$, which it's not. Oh well.

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Originally posted by squirrel:
And, I'm tired of doing all these little things for him, trying to be a good girlfriend, and he doesn't return the same courtesy to me. [snip] He never buys me stuff, except for Christmas and birthday.

Dammit, please just pay attention to me! Make me feel like your girlfriend, not the roomate you have sex with.

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You said it exactly. This is how I'm going to put it to my dh. Because, you know, he thinks sex is enough intimacy in a relationship. And he expects me to be beating down the door to his pants, when we haven't spent ten minutes together where we're not sleeping, getting ready for work, or *gosh* fighting in the last three or four days. It's not my fault I don't work until two and can't stay up that late so you can get some lovin'.

Oh, yeah, the other thing, about showing love with stuff: what she said! I do it all the time and I'd like a similar response.