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MissMel Housemate |
posted 08-30-2001 01:34 PM
   
We gave all of our attendants (we only had 5) books. One got a book of love spells, another a book on Bonsai, one recieved a book on surviving harsh climates (she was moving to Syracuse after living in Florida her whole life...), etc., something that would be special to them. They went over really well with everybody. We inscribed the covers so we also got to write a special message to each of them. And it's something that they'll probably keep forever. IP: Logged |
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lisalou Housemate |
posted 08-31-2001 07:39 AM
9 days!!!!!!! Yeefan- I got my bms baskets full of bath products from all around the world. Soaps from France, candles from England and since most of them are not from this area, I tucked in some notecards of handmade paper. I had so much fun puting them together, I wish I had made one for myself. IP: Logged |
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emmalou Housemate |
posted 09-01-2001 09:09 AM
Yeefan-- Congratulations, almost-married-lady!  For my bridesmaids I wanted something kind of funky and old-world-esque. I don't remember where, but I found these oblong metal containers that were rust-colored and had the accompanying texture. The top edge was scalloped. It was probably a very fancy planter of some sort; I thought it was beautiful. Anyway, I filled the bottom of the containers with excelsior and then added a bunch of little things: some French bubblebath that pictured a flapper girl on the front; a few sticks of sealing wax with a metal stamp of her first initial; a fun and tacky item (a plastic caketopper in the shape of a very dressed-up girl), and a couple of other things that I can't remember now. The girls loved the baskets! IP: Logged |
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PennyLane Housemate |
posted 09-04-2001 08:31 AM
So I bought the dress. It's traditional, can you believe it? It has a form fitting v neck top and a long flowing poufy bottem with an almost 20 foot train, completetly embroidred and beaded. I put it on and I felt like a princess. THAT has never happened to me before! It was a discontinued dress so I got it for a steal - $250. I didn't know this but you can haggle for a lower price on a dress. There's a tip for you brides to be. Another tip is this - I wear a size 8, I asked for a size 8, the dress was way too tight. Then in another brand 8 was hanging off of me. So take it all in stride, and don't cry as I did. Anyway I buy this beautiful dress completely forgetting that I have to trapise through a rose garden to meet my groom, a ROSE GARDEN, you know, dirt on the ground. So now we have to spend more money to buy a roll of tarp or whatever for yours truly to walk down - a minor detail which made me cry hysterically. You just want everything to come ready made and perfect, you know? IP: Logged |
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yeefan Head of the House |
posted 09-04-2001 08:37 AM
yay, Penny! That's so exciting ... and the dress sounds beautiful (and what a great deal -- lucky you!) Yeah, bridal gown sizes are funny -- they don't seem to correspond at all to normal dress sizes. I also have a sneaking suspicion that there's this big conspiracy in the bridal industry to purposely make the dresses too big -- thus ensuring brides will have to spend extra money on expensive alterations. Both my dress and my bridesmaid dresses were INCHES too big around all over -- this despite the fact that we were all measured, and ordered the "right" size based on the charts. IP: Logged |
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emmalola Housemate |
posted 09-04-2001 09:31 AM
I had the worst luck finding the RIGHT dress. The sizing is impossible- Normally I am a pretty consistent size 12. I would never have fit into most size 12s they gave me- in fact the dress I bought off the rack is a size 16! I am definitely getting it tailor because it is a little too big, but there is no way I would ever wear a size 16 in anything. Then again, I tried on size 10 dresses that fit me perfectly. I ended up with a nice little dress that I like very much- not too frilly girly but not too casual. I just didn't want that whole cotillion look. not my style. I also ended up going to David's Bridal for my dress- a hugomongous chain store that prides itself on cheap (read affordable) dresses in 100% polyester. I decided I would like to spend more on my honeymoon than on my dress. And my wedding is going to be during mud season in New Mexico, so I thought I would avoid the tears then from dirty dress syndrome and just not spend a huge amount. IP: Logged |
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fluffygurl Housesitter |
posted 09-04-2001 01:56 PM
Oh Lola that dress is lovely sooo pretty and lisalou I hope you have a great day hun ya havta post a pic of you in the dress too!!! IP: Logged |
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PennyLane Housemate |
posted 10-02-2001 04:48 AM
I started writing my wedding vows yesterday because both Josh and I agreed we want to re-word them and then write a little bit of nonsense to each other. Fortunalty we have a notary public performing the wedding and she is cool , so we are free to do what we want in that arena. Like take out the word "obey."So last night we were writing the parts for each other. I decided to put on a little mood music (Depeche Mode) to help me think better. I finally had smoething commited to paper andwas reliatively happy with it. I begged Josh to readme some of his until he gave in. His was a very sweet poem in which he used words like "cherish," "behold" and possibly even "tithe." I'm like the Rodney Dangefield of romance, you guys. I'm so disgusted with myself. I am hopping online early this a.m.(as in 7) to find some romantic inspiration. So far, I have been posting on here and listening to Ween radio. I better hop to it, ya'll. IP: Logged |
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lovely Subletter |
posted 10-07-2001 12:40 PM
Well, I think the nontraditional wedding is where we will land. I'm having a small, intimate wedding (15-20 guests) and want it to be without too many headaches. In fact, I'd like no headaches, thank you. I think the pressure to have a hugely expensive wedding is simply silly. If you got it to spend, sure! But, if you're like us (hard-working and average incomes), then it is best to be practical. (Practical doesn't been boring or cheap!) I just want it to be meaningful and a memorable event for my fiancee and I. Really, ain't this the point? So, no best man, no bridesmaid...I think we'll have a couple of attendants to help us keep things running smoothly. These are all old traditions whose origins have to do with waving off evil spirits and blah, blah, blah. Who cares? I don't believe in that stuff anyway. And, I'm going to wear a really nice informal wedding dress! It'd be silly to get a huge gown for such a small wedding, I think. Maybe we'll rent a section of a restaurant for the dinner party. We'll see... In the end, it needs to be a sacred event beyond money, tradition, or whatever. IP: Logged |
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amandafaith Housemate |
posted 10-07-2001 05:12 PM
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PennyLane Housemate |
posted 10-23-2001 09:42 AM
Sorry I have not written so much lately - truth is, even a semi-shotgun wedding, with enough preperation, can wear your soul thin. The big day is Sunday and though I am very excited i can't wait for it to be over. Well, not the wedding part, just the planning, the stress, the seamstress who just told me, "Can I have you come in for the final fitting tommorow? Your dress is all ripped up and I don't want you to see it." The delicate lace pouches of birdseed that will be pummeled at our heads. The guest party favors it took me a week to make. The three tier wedding cake that is going to be vanilla (yuck), because it's cheaper. The DJ who is bringing a "lady friend" and refuses to play the theme from Space Odyssesy 2001 when we walk in, even though it's our wedding. The well meaning friends who keep saying things like, "So this is your last season, month, weekend, week, Monday ... being single." The parents who call every five minutes to see if you have changed some minor detail without telling them. The chair people who can deliver on Saturday, pick up on Monday, but it's gonna cost you $50 more, cause they aren't open on Sunday. The mother who buys you a headpiece saying it reminded her of "Jesus." The sister in law who is jealous because her wedding wasn't so big. And finally, the fiance, who only wants to hear you say you love him more than ever as he is getting fitted for a tux while buying the wedding bands and making a deposit on your honeymoon suite. God love him. And not to forget, if you are in my shoes, the baby kicking your ribs and making you tired and thirsty half the time. So sorry for not writing, I promise to be back next week good as new with lots of pictures. Signing off on my last Tuesday being single, IP: Logged |
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pillpusher Subletter |
posted 10-25-2001 06:20 PM
Two words: Las Vegas. Its not that trashy anymore. And think of all the money you'd save! Out of respect for our parents, I would have a small private party to celebrate my marriage among family and friends. I know a couple that took all of the money their parents were going to give them for the wedding and used it as a down payment on a new house! I'm just not a believer in blowing it out of proportion --loses the real meaning. IP: Logged |
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emmalola Housemate |
posted 10-27-2001 09:28 AM
Okay, here's a question for you all. Both wedded and unwedded, I need a little input here. I'm getting married in New Mexico in the spring, right? but I live in New England. SO we need to decide what sort of music will be the entertainment for the reception. At first the sweets wanted to make a bunch of mix cd's and just run them off a boom box. I nixed that idea. (I think he's still daydreaming about "the perfect wedding mix.") I just think that the boombox can't interact with people like a real live person can. And my family is being very generous so we don't have to worry about money. So I had him convinced that hiring a DJ would be better. But the problem is, all along I've been thinking that this is my WEDDING, gosh darnit, and I want it to be special. A smarmy DJ with a microphone cajoling the guests into doing the macarena feels more like junior high and less like one of my life's landmark moments. I liked junior high, but I just can't get excited about a DJ anymore. Even if he comes with his own light show. So now the sweets is starting to think a band would be a good thing. The problem: How to find a great band that plays what you like, sight unseen? I don't want a cheesy wedding band, I don't want a bad band, and we don't really want a swing band. We both agree that a DJ can play music that all generations can dance to and enjoy, it's just a little canned. So I guess the problem really is: can a DJ make a wedding feel as amazingly festive as a live band can? ideas? IP: Logged |
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LaMantequilla Housesitter |
posted 10-27-2001 12:05 PM
As you know, emmalola, I live in NM... and I wish I could suggest a good wedding band for you! You probably don't want an emo, blues, or mariachi band... if you did, I could probably hook you up. Anyway, most bands are more than willing to send you a tape of their music before you decide to hire them. I think a live band is almost always better than a DJ, but it's tricky to find what you want. A DJ would be fine as long as you both were clear that you did not want to hear, "Daddy Mac will make you Jump, Jump! Mac Daddy'll make ya Jump, Jump!" on your special day. IP: Logged |
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Epicurus Housemate |
posted 10-28-2001 01:53 PM
EmmaLola: Three of my sibs have been married, one with a DJ and two with bands. The band is so much more fun. Whether band or DJ, you can always dictate the music they play--so don't worry about that. You can usually get bands to send you demo tapes if you're out of town. If you know someone in NM, you can always get them to gather a bunch and send them off to you. Bands will usually have lists of songs they klnow, too, for you to pick from. If you're getting married in a church or having a reception someplace where lots of weddings happen, they should have a list of bands. IP: Logged |
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SmallBladder Housemate |
posted 10-29-2001 08:25 AM
We had a DJ for ours. The good ones will have a whole repertoire of CDs/songs/music that they can put on upon a drop of a hat. If you go the DJ route, make sure that you have a list of songs that you want heard, and then drop of any CDs that the DJ doesn't have that you want heard. We had the DJ do a "run through" of the reception--what he would say, etc. etc. It turned out to be a lot of fun. In fact, I was one of the last ones on the dance floor--it was me, my sister, and my bridesmaids and my hubby out there dancing with the servers to "The Thong Song." IP: Logged |
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Riah Housemate |
posted 11-06-2001 04:03 PM
The boyfriend is now officially the husband-to-be. Let the planning begin! Let's hope me planning in one state and having the wedding in another state will work out. I don't even have the joy of Jer helping me out, even if it is just to help me keep the sanity. Jer lives about 2 hours from where the wedding will be. His mother, a nice martha stewart wannabe lives on the East Coast. She'll be helping me make the flower arrangements, etc. It will all work out, but at this point I'm a little pensive about planning the entire deal. I'm seeking opinions of some ideas that Jer and I have been bouncing around. He and I do not like to dance and neither do our families, so that's out. Both of our families are the "Sit around the kitchen, drink coffee and visit" type of people. We are also looking at just having a cake, coffee and punch reception immediately after the early afternoon ceremony in the church hall. By early afternoon I'm thinking around 1 p.m. Then around 6-ish to have a fairly informal barbeque at a park. There will be lots of smallish children that will be in attendance. I think this type of atmosphere would be more conducive for relatives from out of town to get to know each other. [This message has been edited by Riah (edited 11-06-2001).] IP: Logged |
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PennyLane Housemate |
posted 11-07-2001 07:56 AM
I chose the DJ also. Mysister in law had a band at her wedding, and the poor guys barely squeezed thorugh "All Along The Watchtower." Can you blame them? I thought a DJ wold be nice because of the vast array of songs at his fingertips. I gave my DJ a CD case filled with the songs i wanted to hear. I labeled each CD with a post it, "Track #8, Learning To Fly." It worked out well because not only do I have a picture of my grandparents doing the YMCA (NOT a cd in my collection), I also got to see the look of wonder on my brother in laws face when he said, "Wow, is this Pink Floyd?" Not to mention when my father requested a Frank Sinatra song for us to dance to, took me totally by surprise,and was my favorite moment in the reception. IP: Logged |
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yeefan Head of the House |
posted 11-07-2001 08:17 AM
Congrats Riah! Regarding your ideas, I think they sound great. My cousin's wedding didn't have any dancing, and I don't think anyone missed it at all. And the bbq in the park sounds fun (why not just have the reception at the park, though, rather than doing the reception at the church hall and then the bbq afterwards? that makes for a pretty long day ...) On another note, got a call from my photographer today that she's sending proofs, contact sheets and negatives to us today (I'm taking care of the prints myself, since I have a photography background). So excited! (And yes, maybe this means I'll actually get some pix up to share with everyone soon [This message has been edited by yeefan (edited 02-16-2004).] IP: Logged |
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briddy Housemate |
posted 11-07-2001 09:17 AM
I used to work for the now-defunct modernbride.com. My job was to reply to phone calls, e-mails, and regulate chat room topics. I swear, some people have NO taste. I answered questions on the strangest topics. One lady wanted her color scheme to be canary yellow and silver with "lots of balloons". This is not Chuck E Cheese, this is YOUR WEDDING DAY. NO BALLOONS! Another woman wanted to know what she could expect on her wedding night, er, sexually. I sent her to Dr.Ruth.com. I wanted no part in her loss of innocence. Another woman told me that she wants to kill her mother in law, and when I laughed she said "no, really." She continued to tell me how her MOL is trying to control the wedding. Yet another woman told me that she wants a wedding shape shaped like a ladybug and where could she get something like that. IP: Logged |
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mamichan Housemate |
posted 11-07-2001 09:29 AM
congrats! my husband and i did a barbecue-y thing for our wedding, too. it was laid back and very fun. we grilled some steaks and had some different veggies and salads... make sure you get enough grills and enough people WANTING to grill, though! IP: Logged |
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Riah Housemate |
posted 11-07-2001 11:18 AM
Finding enough wanna be grillers won't be difficult. The men in both of our families consider themselves to be grill gods. My only concern about having the reception in the park is because the cake would be outside, likely. I'm afraid nature may take its toll. Jer's mom is going to make it for us so I'd be worried about something happening to it there. IP: Logged |
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yeefan Head of the House |
posted 11-08-2001 08:04 AM
Y'all are so subtle  OK, here are a few snapshots from the wedding ... I wanted to wait till I got some from the ceremony and all, but here are some pre-wedding and reception pix! IP: Logged |
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MissMel Housemate |
posted 11-08-2001 08:56 PM
Beautiful pics Yee-fan! Congratulations Riah! The first few months are the best, before all the hoo-ha starts. But...on the hoo-ha front, if you're going to put the cake outside, maybe a small tent or canopy over the cake table would help? [This message has been edited by yeefan (edited 02-16-2004).] IP: Logged |
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emmalola Housemate |
posted 11-11-2001 04:05 PM
I need help. It's a wedding crisis of epic proportions. I finally have all I need for my wedding dress. The correct underwear, the correct shoes, the correct everything. I have lost almost 16 pounds since I bought it and have an appointment to get it altered next weekend. I spent about $350.00 on it (cheap for wedding dresses) but it is unreturnable. I tried it on this evening hoping to have a wonderful and glistening moment with me and my dress all choked up and excited to be married in March. I didn't like the dress anymore. I don't think I like my dress anymore. Oh my god- I think the dress is kind of (gasp) ugly. I don't know what happened! I have started fantasizing about having a big cotillion dress. I am swimming in the current dress and no amount of pinning and contorting makes it look quite as good as I thought it did. I can't believe I have this problem. I loved the dress when I first bought it but now I am sort of unhappy with it. So what do I do? Am I just a neurotic little ninny who needs to get over her bad self? Should I swallow the expense and go out and find a new dress? should I suck up and remember that there are people starving to death who would love to have a dress such as mine? The wedding is about 4 months away- not really enough time to get a dress from a boutique. anyone have any pearls of wisdom? IP: Logged |
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yeefan Head of the House |
posted 11-11-2001 05:11 PM
Oh, lola, it just needs to be altered! Isn't this the same lovely dress you posted a link to a few pages back? Of course it looks dreadful right now if you've lost all that weight (and big yays! for you); wedding dresses never look good until they're altered to fit you properly. I had the same nagging worry about my dress (though not as much as you -- alas, I didn't lose any weight for the wedding  , although the dress shop tried to convince me otherwise )-- the dress I ordered, when I first went to try it on, was at least two sizes two big for me all around, and even when the seamstress pinned it all over to mark where to take it in, it just didn't look like the same dress I'd first tried on. All those tucks made me look lumpy and poufy, not tiny-waisted and princess-y ... and it wasn't until two more fittings later that the dress finally looked the way I had hoped it would look (the last of which took place a mere week before my wedding ... eek). A good tailor makes all the difference in the world.You're going to look beautiful and perfect, lola. But if you're really, really worried, I'd try the dress on again and get someone you really, truly trust (in my case, I like to run major fashion decisions by my little brother, who is brutally honest about what he thinks looks good, and what just doesn't work at all) to give you their objective opinion. If their opinion confirms you're fears, and you're positive this is the wrong dress, you can try selling the dress you have (I think the knot has a section of their message boards for selling bridal gowns). No, you're not being neurotic -- this happens to everyone! We all walk into the wedding planning process thinking that these little decisions -- the dress, the cake, the location, the band, the flowers -- are monumentally important, that there's one single absolutely right way to achieve our vision of the perfect wedding. The thing is, on the actual day, the bride could be wearing a toga made out of a bedsheet, and still look radiant from all that love and happiness. IP: Logged |
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Foxy Renard Housemate |
posted 11-11-2001 07:43 PM
Ooh, finally! D and I made the whole thing official about a month ago and my mom was a little insane in the membrane about planning for the first couple of weeks, but she's settled in and all seems well. But I was trying to come up with fun and unique ideas to make the thing non-traditional (well, not entirely non-traditional as my poor parents would be heartbroken, but not in a church -- they're still having heart palpitations over this -- and just fun decorating/favor stuff, etc.) and the bridal sites I've looked at are filled with scary people upgrading their engagement rings because they're not big enough and stuff. Good grief. Anyway! Please, please give me some fun schemes! The date's not 'til next August, but I am an organizer and want to put this stuff into action. I found a really cute vintage Barbie/Ken cake topper that would be so perfect -- but is that too retardedly cheesy? Ahh! IP: Logged |
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yeefan Head of the House |
posted 11-12-2001 10:01 AM
congratulations foxy! As for the cake topper, if you love it, go for it! I mean, isn't the whole point that those Barbie and Ken cake toppers ARE fabulously cheesy? Weddings are so personal (or should be, anyway), I find it next to impossible to advise on themes and the like. One thing we did that was kinda fun was to make seating cards that had little dance patterns on the inside (you know, with the little feet showing people how to do various ballroom basics). They seemed to go over well. IP: Logged |
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Foxy Renard Housemate |
posted 11-12-2001 01:16 PM
Agh! I emailed the seller about the cake thing and she said she'd accidentally relisted it -- someone already bought it. Well, boo. I guess it just wasn't meant to be. This means something better is going to come along, right? Hee. IP: Logged |
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ginsu classic Head of the House |
posted 11-12-2001 01:29 PM
there was some talk earlier about dj/band...one thing to keep in mind is to tell them ahead of time whether you want them to make announcements and whatnot. that way you don't have to listen to some dj who likes to hear himself talk all night if you don't want to. you can always have someone tell them to announce something at a given moment, but telling them ahead helps to insure that they aren't too chatty. ninny is a great word. IP: Logged |
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lwasie Housemate |
posted 11-13-2001 06:03 PM
foxy- have you looked at www.indiebride.com? it's wedding planning for those who aren't into the traditional wedding thing. it might be just what you're looking for. IP: Logged |
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greschya Housemate |
posted 12-07-2001 12:05 PM
Nope, not me . . . yet My sister is recently engaged, and has gotten all uberbride on me. I'm trying to do something for christmas with that in mind, so I decided to peruse the wedding section at Borders and then got all scared. The only one that popped out was "The UnBride Wedding Planner" but then I had to remember this is a GIFT for KATE. Not me. Anyway, any recommendations? Yays or Nays on anything would be helpful... I know she really liked the Martha Stewart weddingmagazine, and she wants a really classy upscale type thing (which is so crazy ridiculous to everyone else, since she's a very earthy chick, professional river/mountain guide, and she's ALREADY freaking about centerpieces and she doesn't have a date yet. WHATEVER.) She also is on a budget. I told her about david's Bridal ( I think Lola had mentioned that) but what else would you recommend, and what would you say was a waste of time? Thank you IP: Logged |
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MissMel Housemate |
posted 12-07-2001 12:10 PM
Why not a one year subscription to Martha Stewart Weddings? It's only 4 issues (1 quaterly) and shouldn't be more than $25. About the budget, check out www.theknot.com for their budgeting program. You input how much you have to spend, and it breaks it down into different sections (location, attire, transportation, flowers, etc.) and then gives you ideas based on the amount you can spend for each area. It was a life-saver, never having planned such a big event before. [This message has been edited by MissMel (edited 12-07-2001).] IP: Logged |
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briddy Housemate |
posted 12-07-2001 12:58 PM
quote: Oh my lordy, she doesn't have a date yet? How is she getting married? Anyway, I really am in this post for a reason, and here it is. As a former wedding "expert", I think that...wait what was this post about again...? IP: Logged |
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yeefan Head of the House |
posted 12-07-2001 01:45 PM
The Knot has a wedding planning book that's pretty good ... most of the stuff you see in the "wedding planning" section of bookstores is definitely scary though. IP: Logged |
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Bjerica Housesitter |
posted 12-18-2001 09:38 PM
Since I've finished studying now I no longer have an excuse for putting off planning my wedding. I'm REALLY getting sick of people asking me if I've set a date too. I really want to run my ideas past someone that actually cares (because my boyfriend doesn't*) or someone that will actually have an opinion (because my mother doesn't**). As some of you may know from the living together thread I started last year, D's family is very Catholic. They would be disappointed if we didn't get married in the Catholic Church. To start with I was happy enough to go along with this until I actually went to a Catholic wedding. I felt really uncomfortable sitting in the church standing up, sitting down and generally not really knowing what was going on or when to say stuff. It made me think that if I was uncomfortable, how would my non-Catholic family feel about it? Also, I found out that as a non-Catholic I would be expected to learn about the Catholic religion and also agree to bringing my children up as Catholics. I'm not too happy with that. Since D's parents won't be happy with anything but a Catholic wedding I figure we would be best to get married somewhere else. I've always found that option rather appealling anyway. At the moment a beach wedding in Cairns (northern Australia) is very appealling (of course, no idea on price yet!). The thing about that is, you never really celebrate your marriage with anyone, and I really want the reception part of the wedding. My plan is to go get married in Cairns, honeymoon for a couple of weeks and then have a reception type party when we get back. Does this really sound as crazy as D. made it out to be when I first suggested it? The whole thing will probably cost just as much, if not more than a traditional wedding, but money isn't really an issue for me when it's the type of wedding that I want to have. Back when I was going to do the Catholic thing all I could think about was the money, but I think maybe I was just hiding the real issue that I don't want a Catholic wedding. Any thoughts? *He does care, just about getting married, not interested in how it is done. IP: Logged |
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ginsu classic Head of the House |
posted 12-18-2001 10:57 PM
bjerica, as someone who has attended a Cairns beach wedding, I'll attest to the fact that it was great! the couple lived only a couple of blocks from the beach, so we just walked back to their backyard for the reception (bbq, if memory serves). it was really laid-back and fun. I'm generally anti religious ceremonies, so my vote would be against the Catholic thing...especially if you're uncomfortable with it. if you and your hubby-to-be are footing the bill, then you have big input into how it goes...but if his folks are contributing substantial finances, then you may have to work some kind of compromise (nothing simple comes to mind). IP: Logged |
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Sophie Housemate |
posted 12-19-2001 12:11 AM
BJerica, a Cairns wedding sounds lovely, but my one warning would be to check that your date doesn't coincide with box jellyfish season. I think November - March? parts of the Barrier Reef get infested with these lethal creatures, and basically you can't get into the water (even to paddle romantically along the shore) without a full wetsuit. Cairns is a gorgeous little town, with lots of beautiful rainforest surrounding it, but do check on the internet (I think they're also called 'marine stingers') before you book. Best of luck with sorting out all the complications - my 2 cents on the Catholic issue is that I would find it a bit weird to be immersed in a set of rituals that were completely alien to me on MY wedding day. Do you think you'd be able to relax and enjoy yourself if you were constantly looking out for your cues to stand up or sit down, didn't know the hymns, the correct form of address for the clergy etc etc etc? My feeling is certainly that his family all had their crack at getting married, and good for them if they chose to do it in a Catholic church, but this is YOUR turn now, and you should do what makes you comfortable. IP: Logged |
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Maggie Housemate |
posted 12-19-2001 07:23 AM
Bjerica, One solution if you must do a Catholic wedding is to request that the priest simply perfom the ceremony & don't have a whole huge mass. I've found that even the staunchest of Catholics don't feel like sitting through the huge mass & find it to be extraneous. Ask for just a simple ceremony which would be just like anywhere else you would get married. IP: Logged |
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Epicurus Housemate |
posted 12-19-2001 11:07 AM
quote: That's well and good, but she would still be faced with the fact that the Catholic church requires certin promises from you if you get married under its roof. Additionally, most Catholic churches will not allow you to marry unless you prove that you've been through around six months of pre-marriage counselling. IP: Logged |
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