posted 06-29-2004 06:41 AM            

Congrats Kellyrae and Sophie

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posted 06-29-2004 06:45 AM               

Yay! kellyrae, I was just thinking of you, too, and wondering if you'd been to NS yet!

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posted 06-29-2004 10:40 AM               

Yes, pictures! Congratulations everyone!!

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posted 06-30-2004 10:21 AM               

On a less swoony note, I had an incredibly frustrating time last night talking with my fiance's mother about "her guest list." All along, she has known that we want to keep the list small- only close friends and family. Apparently, she thought that 100 people is "small" and that we meant HER close friends and family. It was so infuriating hearing her go on and on that "she wouldn't tell us what to do, but these people NEED to be invited." !%^&^&*(^@ Even my fiance, who is usually pretty nice to his parents, said at one point "I think there is a disconnect between our mouths and your ears, because you are just not getting this." She wants to invite all her friends from the neighborhood because "she has gone to all their children's weddings, etc. and paid out thousands of dollars, and now it is pay back time." This way of thinking is so ugly to me, though I know a lot of people share it- but I am not willing to trade off my personal ideal of an intimate, fun wedding in the Caribbean just to rake in the bucks from strangers I've never met. Also, no matter how many times we emphasized the fact that we are also keeping the guest list down for cost reasons (my mom has helped us out a lot, but we are paying for the rest of it ourselves) she was still arguing that we should invite all those people and to "start saving" because not once did she even think of putting any money our way for the reception (and they can afford to.)
I really feel that this will forever damage my opinions of my in-laws. I've known them for years, and we've always had a pretty good relationship, but this side of them just revolts me. My fiance's older brother is also getting married next summer, in a huge, traditional, glitzy do that will satisfy her need to invite everyone she knows and collect on what she thinks "she deserves." So why can't she leave us alone? I am definitely not the type to be pushed around, so I am going to stick to my guns here- it is just incredibly stressful and icky when it should be FUN to plan this stuff.

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posted 06-30-2004 12:32 PM               

Maybe you could tell her that if she wants all those people involved, that she can throw a separate party/reception after (possibly at her own expense?), closer to her home. That way you can keep the wedding intimate, and she can still cash in.

I had the opposite problem, both my parents and the boy's parents wanted to invite only about 5 people. I kept asking, "what about [family friend who's known me since I was born]?" And they would say, "well, I guess if you want to, but you don't have to, they probably won't come..." I did end up inviting most of them anyway, and the majority ARE coming. Which makes me happy. But like I said, that was the opposite of you.

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posted 06-30-2004 12:52 PM               

Seriously though, how irritating, and what a crappy reason for even wanting to have all those extra people there.

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posted 06-30-2004 12:55 PM               

Congrats Kellyrae too!

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posted 06-30-2004 10:10 PM            

[This message has been edited by Sophie (edited 06-30-2004).]

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posted 07-01-2004 05:44 AM               

I think Sophie's suggestion of simply giving them their alloted (alotted? allotted?) number of invitations is the way to go.

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posted 07-01-2004 05:09 PM            

I would definitely recommend allotting the parents a certain number of invites and letting them go at it. That's what we did - split between the sets of parents and ourselves. This saved me a lot of the guilt of having to choose who could come and who couldn't - I just passed it on to our parents!

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posted 07-04-2004 05:09 PM               

76 days to go and i'm terrified. Just... at all the things that could go wrong. And everybody looking at me. Balance it out with all the things I'm excited about... what will win out?

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posted 07-04-2004 10:33 PM               

SCORE!

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