Dewgirl, are your attendants all mutual friends of you and Al? We have 6 guys and 2 girls, and just aren't dividing them up by bridesmaid/groomsmen, instead they are just our circle of friends there to support us.

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Originally posted by Ruth4:
On the reply card issue - in Australia (when I say "Australia" i mean in my meagre experience of being invited to about 5 weddings here so I could obviously be wrong) RSVP cards aren't expected to be included with a wedding invitation. The idea is that people are supposed to know that a written invitation requires a written response - if you put in an RSVP card here it would be like saying "I expect that you don't have the manners to know that you should write back to me, so here's a card to make sure that you do!". It's funny how different places have developed different ideas of proper etiquette!!

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I know that country Victoria is quite a bit different to Sydney but I didn't realise I was breaking etiquette rules and telling my guests they didn't have any manners when I sent out RSVP cards!

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Originally posted by Sophie:
"Sandals is for mixed-sex couples only".

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Originally posted by Starstuff42:
Wow. I'm surprised they can do that.

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Really, they can do whatever they want. They also have clauses saying that singles and children are not allowed.

We have a resort in the Milwaukee area called Sybaris which is VERY strict on it's rules for letting you stay there. You must be married, and I believe that they make you show your wedding certificate. They run it as a private club which you need to purchase a membership to, and therefore, can really do whatever they want. I wouldn't be suprised if Sandals is the same way.

Edit: whoops... I take that back. I read more on their website and it says you don't have to be married to stay at the Sybaris. I thought one of my friends had said they had this rule. Sorry!

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Originally posted by Dewgirl:
Really, they can do whatever they want. They also have clauses saying that singles and children are not allowed.

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I have to say I think it's totally legit for them to not allow children. For some people, a vacation in a childfree spot is a must and Sandals is targeting the romantic couple vacation market so they're spot on with not allowing kids. IMHO of course. Insisting that couples be opposite genders, however, is just dumb.

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Originally posted by Beach:
I have to say I think it's totally legit for them to not allow children. For some people, a vacation in a childfree spot is a must

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Agreed. Al and I have already talked about that wherever we go on our honeymoon, it's going to have to be a hotel/resort/whatever where no children are allowed. There aren't going to be any children at our wedding, either. Not that we don't like kids (okay, we don't really) but for special occasions like this, I don't my biggest memory of the event to be

MOMMY! MOMMY! I WANT MY POWER RANGER TOY RIGHT NOW. *ear piercing scream*

ahem. No.

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In happier news, we're all set! August 14, 2004 in Baltimore! Yay!
Here's a question: we never sent out engagement announcements and lots of people still don't know we're getting married. But now that we know the date is it fair to tell people yet? Most save-the-dates only go out 4 months ahead of time, so I don't want people to feel like we're telling them early to force them into coming. But we also don't want to spend money on both announcements and save-the-dates. Hmm...what to do?

Almost everything is done, except final logistics plans for the day of, and I still have to talk to the caterer, but he's laid back so I'm not worried about it...

Now if only I can survive a whole weekend of my family plus his...

(edited because I can't type!)

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Originally posted by Fenchurch:
I did... I knew the proposal was coming, and the dress was a steal! I see nothing wrong with it, unless maybe you are buying it before you even find the potential spouse? Hehe.

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I say buy the dress, or at least put it on hold. In the odd case you find something better, ask what their return policy is.

How do we get this across in our invitation inserts??

I'm making up an 8.5x11 info sheet (folded in half like a program) that has everything a guest could ever need to know about coming into town for our wedding. On the back is the timeline for the evening of.

For the reception section, I've put a lead in of: "Dress in your best and bring your dancing shoes! We’ve got a great reception planned-- dinner is buffet-style and we’ve booked a mini Big Band so we can dance the night away! "

Do you think that is enough of a nudge? Or should I put "Dress in your formal best..."

Help! Any other ideas welcome, too

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Originally posted by lesliele:

Do you think that is enough of a nudge? Or should I put "Dress in your formal best..."

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I wouldn't be this ambiguous... I think most folks would rather a clearer sense of what you're thinking... I might put something like "formal attire encouraged" to be clear that you're going for formal, but that it's not hard-and-fast...

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Originally posted by crowjoy:
Josh, what did you wear to your sister's wedding? Was it a tux or do guys get some other choice for formal attire?

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I wore a tux. Basically everyone else did too, but a few people showed up in dark suits, which was fine.

For guys who are anti-tux because the rental thing is a pain/expensive:
I've been a tux-owner (not the same one) since I was in high school. If you wear it twice, it's worth buying.

Also, a money-saving tip: go to a tux rental place, and buy a used tux. They tend to be really cheap.

I've worn a tuxedo now probably over 100 times.... which may be a bit unusual, but it's definitely worth it to own one.