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Dewgirl Housesitter |
posted 06-12-2003 07:57 AM
   
Wonder upon wonders... we were discussing wedding plans last night, and I talked Al into having a pale yellow for one of our colours! I want to carry a bouquet of yellow roses, and I've been thinking about daisies or lillies for the other flowers. The question he raised though... what other colour can I choose to go with it? Since we're most likely having an all male wedding party (ie. men standing up both for him and me), we don't have to worry about dresses, but do have to worry about what accent colours will go on the tuxes, etc. The only thing I've thought of that would go well and fit with the theme is green, but this is Wisconsin and people are going to think it's a Packer wedding if we do that. Suggestions? IP: Logged |
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Princessjeanne Housemate |
posted 06-12-2003 08:11 AM
Packer wedding. *shudder* Anyway. What if you did a pale orange/pale brick red color with the yellow? Sunsetish them, y'know? Also the guys might not object to ties/vests/whatevers in those colors as they would to say, pink or baby blue. Though if you did baby blue, you could get all liesure-suit style tuxes with big ruffles. That would be cool. I'll stop now. IP: Logged |
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yam Housemate |
posted 06-12-2003 08:18 AM
The one thing I'm sad about with having an august wedding is that dandelions will be gone by then. And it's not like there are any florists who grow dandelions in hothouses that I can pick up a bouquet from. Sigh! Well, not that I'd know what to do with a bouquet. There's no aisle to walk down at my wedding. IP: Logged |
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meredithva Housemate |
posted 06-12-2003 12:39 PM
I'm in the same place with the planning. There's really not much we can do right now except book the cermony/reception place. I've found invitations online that I like, but we won't be ordering those until next year. I've also seen some dresses online but have yet to try any real wedding dresses on. I stumbled upon a really beautiful gown at a Salvation Army recently and cursed myself for not being a size 10. That's also part of the issue...waiting while I'm losing weight. I've gone down a few sizes recently so I don't want to even tempt myself with dresses on sale that might need to be altered in a year. What's the point of saving money if you end up paying for tons of alterations later? We both have to-do lists, but the #1 thing at the top of each is "Come out to So-and-So". For me, I need to come out to my grandparents and M needs to come out to her sister. It's embarassing to admit that some family members still don't know we're gay. *cringe* IP: Logged |
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Dewgirl Housesitter |
posted 06-12-2003 02:16 PM
Steph, Yam, MeredethVa... any other brides that I'm not aware of... I just found a great wedding site called http://www.ultimatewedding.com It looks like it's relatively similar to the Knot, but a little less... hyper? Not sure what the word is. Anyway, it might be worth checking out! IP: Logged |
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Starstuff42 Housemate |
posted 06-12-2003 02:25 PM
quote: Wow. That's gotta be so nerve-racking! I'm sending good vibes your way. Best of luck that it all goes smoothly. Just remember that they all love you and want you to be happy. IP: Logged |
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pyrabug Housemate |
posted 06-12-2003 04:59 PM
quote: yellow is such a cute color for a wedding. martha stewart is still my goddess no matter how many run-ins with the law she can get herself into. anyway. last year she did a feature on a 'citrus' scheme. all the food borrowed citrus notes, the colors were citrusy as well. she showed this gorgeous orange blossom topped cake... orange blossoms are so pretty. i think it was her spring issue last year. everything was so nice and sunny. perfect for an august wedding i think... warm yet still fresh so it doesn't feel stifling. she basically used shades of yellow and orange, hints of a fresh lime (as in the fruit's skin... similar to healthy grass) green. if not, how about a sage green to go with the pale yellow? silver would look nice with them both. weddings make me feel warm and squishy. IP: Logged |
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Dewgirl Housesitter |
posted 06-13-2003 08:26 AM
Hmm.. silver... I didn't think of that. I kind of like the idea of a 'black and white' thing... you know, black tuxes, white dress on me, perhaps a silvery-gray for the accent colours on the tuxes and other things? Then the yellow would really pop out in the places where it's used. Those of you with more visual minds than mine... does that sound like a good theme? IP: Logged |
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jazzberry Housemate |
posted 06-13-2003 09:19 AM
it depends on the shade of yellow and the shade of silver. It can be very pretty and elegant, or very clashy and tacky. I went to a wedding last year and the colours were a medium yellow (tulips) and a cornflower blue (satin bridesmaids dresses). It was gorgeous. You might also want to look up flower meanings, if you're interested in what flowers symbolize. I love that stuff. I'll search for a website I found last year and post the link for you. [This message has been edited by jazzberry (edited 06-13-2003).] IP: Logged |
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Dewgirl Housesitter |
posted 06-13-2003 09:36 AM
I'm thinking more along the lines of a gray, rather than a silver. Silver is a little too flashy for my tastes... I'm almost thinking like a gray with muted platinum tones. Boy's engagement ring is a brushed platinum band, and I love the colour of it... it's not at all "bright"... but it's got such a rich colour to it, I love it! Yeah, boy and I had talked about light blues, sage greens, other spring-flower-type colours... but he says that the men won't be caught dead in those colours. And since we won't have any bridesmaids dresses to worry about, the men have it [This message has been edited by Dewgirl (edited 06-13-2003).] IP: Logged |
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meredithva Housemate |
posted 06-13-2003 10:13 AM
quote: Isn't it funny what strikes one person as really pretty/classy and another as too flashy? I like silver, but not in excess. The bridesmaid dress I was thinking of is here. I think it's cute for a night wedding in August. And the funny thing is that the silver is my compromise. I'm not a big fan of metallics, but M loves them like nothing else. So we're working on finding the best of both navy and silver that we can agree on. IP: Logged |
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jazzberry Housemate |
posted 06-13-2003 01:35 PM
meredith, that dress is really pretty...you're definitely not the type of girl who wants to make her bridesmaids look ugly on purpose! hehehee. Dewgirl, I agree with meredith on the colour thing. You can add splashes of colour on those boys with hankies or coloured ties, they don't have to wear a powder blue suit! (though that would be really cool...hehehe) Here's a link to some flower meanings...it's not the site I was talking about, but close enough (btw, Jasmine = grace and elegance! hah! IP: Logged |
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lesliele Housemate |
posted 06-26-2003 06:02 AM
Bumping this up to see who's gotten alterations done on their dress yet... I have an appt. for the 15th of July and I'm wondering what it's going to entail... Luckily, my parents paid for my dress, so I can afford to shell out a couple hundred bucks for alterations... BUT I wanna know if I'm getting screwed or not. Any suggestions/tips? (Oh-- and it's going to run me about $150-$200 to get my gown bustled, the bodice made smaller, and possibly the hem shortened) IP: Logged |
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suzette Housemate |
posted 06-26-2003 06:54 AM
Leslie, that sounds about right. I paid $100 to have my dress hemmed. They are going to want you to bring all your underthings (pettycoat, corset/bra) and wear the shoes you will wear at the wedding. So if you don't have those things, you might want to get them before the appointment. That way they'll be able to fit it exactly - and there won't be any last minute surprises - especially with the length. I learned that the exact shoes are incredibly important as my bridesmaid and I raced around town two days before the wedding to get her dress hemmed. She wore different shoes when she had her dress altered, and it was two inches too long when she got to town. edited for clarity, hopefully [This message has been edited by suzette (edited 06-26-2003).] IP: Logged |
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Josie Jo Housemate |
posted 06-26-2003 04:14 PM
I *just* had my first fitting today - here are some details: I hadn't put on the dress since I bought it, so as I was getting ready in the dressing room I was shaking I was so nervous. Partly because there were other people around and I was hoping they wouldn't think I looked hideous, and partly because I kept thinking about getting ready on the day of. I don't get nervous before shows usually, but this had me a little off my stride. Like suzette said, make sure you have the bra and slip that you will wear, as well as the shoes. Otherwise your fitting will be off, or they might not even do it. Once you are set to get fitted, prepare to be 1) hot and 2) bored. I mean, I've performed in large crinolines and hoopskirts before, and I was surprised how hot it was. Of course, costumes are constructed for mobility - wedding dresses, not so much! : And my dress is pretty simple, as well. While they are pinning, there isn't much to do except stare around you, because you can't look down at what she's doing, you'll mess up the fit. I didn't bring anyone with me, but everyone else in the shop had a friend/mom/person with them - good for talking to if nothing else, I suppose! Eat something first. It might take an hour, and you'll be standing still for most of it. That is, when you aren't in a tiny dressing room wrangling with multiple petticoats, as I had to do... And finally, don't let them talk you into stuff you don't want. Bra cups? I didn't need or want them, though she tried to convince me. No thanks. I did agree to exchange my petticoat for a poufier one - I didn't feel like putting up a fight, I was all my myself and getting tired. Does any of that help? IP: Logged |
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yam Housemate |
posted 06-26-2003 11:51 PM
Hmm, I should start making my dress soon. I've been putting it off because I've never made anything from a pattern before and I'm feeling a bit intimidated. On the other hand, half the wedding party, such as it is, will be wearing superhero capes, so it's not like even a fantastic cock-up will seem too out of place... IP: Logged |
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jazzberry Housemate |
posted 06-27-2003 12:04 AM
what's your dress going to be like, yam? IP: Logged |
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crowjoy Housemate |
posted 06-27-2003 06:07 AM
Can I just say how much I love a bride who is trying out pattern sewing skills on her wedding dress?? Edited because I realized I was flirting with a bride-to-be in the wedding thread! Hee! [This message has been edited by crowjoy (edited 06-27-2003).] IP: Logged |
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suzette Housemate |
posted 06-27-2003 06:37 AM
quote: shameless! IP: Logged |
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Brookiebaby Housemate |
posted 06-27-2003 02:00 PM
quote: but oddly intriguing... IP: Logged |
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yam Housemate |
posted 06-27-2003 04:57 PM
jazzberry - 's going to be a pretty simple white sundress with short sleeves and a v-neck, with two strips of patchwork (using leftover superhero cape material) down the front. cj - bahaha, I suspect that like many boys, my fiancé wishes I'd flirt MORE with cute girls. preferably while mud-wrestling. just saying. In unrelated news, I totally need to set up a registry here. Oh man. I think we need to replace the fireplace switch with a huge knife switch and maybe get it to play an evil genius laugh and flash some green LEDs when it turns on. IP: Logged |
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yam Housemate |
posted 07-01-2003 12:11 AM
Hooray, I successfully followed the pattern! Actually I majorly screwed up 3 times, but it was all fixable and now I have a more or less lovely white sundress. I've decided to just add random patches instead of two strips of patchwork, though. a) more random! and b) less fussy. (and c), doesn't look like the officiant's stole..) tra la! I am so happy that I don't have to buy a walmart sundress or anything. IP: Logged |
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meredithva Housemate |
posted 07-02-2003 06:19 AM
Yay for Yam and her super sewing skills! You know you wanna post some pics for us!! We're still in the beginning stages, but we'll be putting a deposit down soon if a certain place looks spiffy this weekend while being prepared for a wedding. We get to sneak in and look at their decorations, etc. We're already cool with the place and want to use them, but since they're letting us come in and check it out, we'll take them up on it! After that, it's just a countdown to next year...August 2004. Whee! In other news, I'm thinking strapless. If I'm not so bountiful in the bosom will it still work? hmm. IP: Logged |
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Dewgirl Housesitter |
posted 07-02-2003 08:27 AM
quote: If you find the right dress. I'm in the AA to A range, and I wore a strapless dress to a formal once.. just make sure you find one that has good boning in the bodice, find the push-uppiest of the push-up bras you can find, and make sure that your seamstress fits the bodice very tightly for you. If it's done right, we un-bountiful girls can actually look endowed in a strapless dress. Let us know what you pick out! IP: Logged |
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Fenchurch Housemate |
posted 07-02-2003 05:19 PM
I just read the Etiquette Smetiquette column about no rsvp cards in wedding invites, and now I am panicking, can someone please tell me what they think? We are including a small card in our invitations that says "Please respond by October 3rd in the manner most convenient to you" and then lists our regular mail, email, and phone. We thought it was a good idea because some people would rather email or call and we wouldn't have to buy a bunch of stamps for card that we'd only get half back anyway. Am I giving the guests too much credit? Is this presumptuous or rude? The etiquette column was pretty mean about it, but at least we are writing out all of the addresses, right? IP: Logged |
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Bjerica Housesitter |
posted 07-02-2003 05:34 PM
I wouldn't stress Fenchurch, I think what you have done is perfectly fine. Giving guests several options for RSVPing makes sense. I think the main gripe in the etiquette column was that there were no obvious ways to reply and the guests had to put in a bit of effort to RSVP. Your little card gives the guest the option to do what suits them best easily by having the contact details available to them. IP: Logged |
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yeefan Head of the House |
posted 07-02-2003 06:00 PM
Oh dear -- the intention of my answer in etiquette schmetiquette wasn't to make anyone feel bad for not including an RSVP card. I think as long as there's an obvious way for guests to know how to respond, that's fine, Fenchurch ... your RSVP request accompanied by contact info is just dandy; I just think that if a couple doesn't include a card (as was the case for the person who wrote in) they shouldn't be pissy if people don't respond in writing. IP: Logged |
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Fenchurch Housemate |
posted 07-02-2003 07:19 PM
Thanks for the reassurance, both of you.  Yeefan, don't feel bad, I'm just overly sensitive! Jeff and I are making up a lot of this wedding stuff as we go along- looking at how everyone else does things and then deciding what makes sense to us, like not having stamped reply cards, or serving yummy lasagna and fettuchini alfredo at the reception. We have come up with some things that we think are great ideas, but about every other day, I worry about something. It's like I have one voice in my head saying "Everyone will think this is weird! No one will like it!" and another voice telling me "It's our wedding! Screw what everyone else thinks!" Added to the pressure are his two cousins having very expensive, formal, fancy weddings this summer. I just hate all this second guessing. Oh well- I'll survive, and in 108 days, I get to marry my best friend. PS- Does anyone have ideas on how I can convince him we *need* a pinata at the reception? He just won't give in to that one. IP: Logged |
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Bjerica Housesitter |
posted 07-02-2003 10:07 PM
quote: Umm, no. But it sounds like an excellent idea! IP: Logged |
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yam Housemate |
posted 07-02-2003 11:10 PM
Pull the family card. "My ancient grandmother would think it was bad luck if we don't have a piñata! You wouldn't want her to have a stroke, would you?" Straight face is essential, plus teary eyes. Do not think about piñatas. Think about kittens. Drowning. If all else fails, send ME your piñata. IP: Logged |
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Ruth4 Housemate |
posted 07-03-2003 12:25 AM
On the reply card issue - in Australia (when I say "Australia" i mean in my meagre experience of being invited to about 5 weddings here so I could obviously be wrong) RSVP cards aren't expected to be included with a wedding invitation. The idea is that people are supposed to know that a written invitation requires a written response - if you put in an RSVP card here it would be like saying "I expect that you don't have the manners to know that you should write back to me, so here's a card to make sure that you do!". It's funny how different places have developed different ideas of proper etiquette!! IP: Logged |
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lesliele Housemate |
posted 07-03-2003 05:51 AM
quote: I hear you on that one, Fenchurch... The' and I are having a formal non-traditional wedding. These might seem like things that are of no consequence, but I can't BEGIN to tell you all the griping that goes on when one of these things come up and we mention what we are planning instead. *sigh* I just feel that for us, some of those things are inappropriate. So you GO GIRL! Do what you want... Have a great time! That's what's important... It's your party... You can whack things with a stick if you want! IP: Logged |
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hermia Housemate |
posted 07-03-2003 07:10 AM
quote: Hey, sounds like you're following the whole "good taste" set of rules instead of going with the crowd. I'm with you on all that stuff, though I've never seen a dollar dance. YIKES. IP: Logged |
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meredithva Housemate |
posted 07-03-2003 07:11 AM
Wow, leslie, look at you go with your indie self! Cool. And Bjerica, you so need to have a pinata. Maybe you can say it's for the kids that are coming, but you'll secretly know that you'll be the first one out there beatin' away on some paper mache. Hee! Edited because I've been meaning to ask about a website. I'm good with computers and everything, but don't know much about setting up a website besides geocities & angelfire (Death to POPUPS!), nor do I have the funds to buy dreamweaver and/or other software for site design. So I found this site: http://www.weddingtracker.com and was thinking it would be a nice idea to use a resource for guests. What do you website-saavy people have to say? Is it a good deal? Is there something better? Thanks! [This message has been edited by meredithva (edited 07-03-2003).] IP: Logged |
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lesliele Housemate |
posted 07-03-2003 08:03 AM
quote: Well, to ENLIGHTEN you... A dollar dance is one where each of the wedding guest must PAY to dance with either the bride or the groom. Usually the Maid of Honor and the Best man are assigned to hold the money for the couple. Sometimes a basket is used, sometimes they just hold the dollars in their greedy little fists. However, there ARE variations to the theme. I've been to weddings where the money is shoved down the bride's dress or inside the groom's pants, a'la' strip club. I've seen the money pinned to the bride's gown (A Polish(??) custom I think...). I've seen the bride and groom hold their own wad of cash in their own sweaty hands... and last but not least, I was at one wedding where the bride and groom had a play CASH REGISTER set up for people to deposit money into. (this was right next to the basket for the cards...) *sigh* Som people are SO TACKY. Sheesh. IP: Logged |
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mamichan Housemate |
posted 07-03-2003 11:37 AM
Lesliele and Fenchurch -- stick to your guns and have your non-traditional wedding. do it your way! my hubby and i faced a LOT of opposition from both sets of parents about our very casual and non-traditional wedding. our mothers cried about it. but, at my BIL's very formal and traditional wedding over xmas, everyone who attended our wedding told us how great it was, how they liked the fun and casual atmosphere there. even my BIL and SIL told us they wished they had done it our way! IP: Logged |
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Dewgirl Housesitter |
posted 07-03-2003 11:57 AM
What do you guys think about mixed-gender attendants? (er.. that is, having both men and women on the bride's side). On Al's side, are going to be 3 of his (male) friends that he's very close to. But on my side, we're up in the air. Originally it was going to be another 3 guys... a good friend of both ours, a good friend/ex boyfriend of mine, and my half-brother (whom I barely know). Now, I'm starting to find girls I'd rather incorporate than my somewhat drama-queenish ex and my barely-known brother. But that would leave me with either 2 guys and a girl, or 2 girls and a guy. I'm concerned this is going to look wierd. If it were all men or all women, that seems okay to me... but I think (especially with 2 men and 1 woman) it might look odd. Thoughts? IP: Logged |
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jpunca Housemate |
posted 07-03-2003 12:30 PM
I think in this day and age, you can do anything you want in regard to your attendents. A close friend of mine had an equal number of males and females on each side-- could your fiance come up with a few more girls for his side? IP: Logged |
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Dewgirl Housesitter |
posted 07-03-2003 12:51 PM
Nah, we're already stretching it as it is He wanted a lot more than 3 guys on his side...but as you can tell I'm really having trouble finding 3 people of any gender on my side.If I had my way, we'd go Lesliele's way and have no attendants at all! But he nixed that, and we compromised on 3 each. IP: Logged |
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jpunca Housemate |
posted 07-03-2003 12:57 PM
Then do whatever makes you happy! If "balance" is what you are seeking maybe do two boys and one girl on each side. If you just want one girl you could have her as maid of honor and then have all the rest of guys as you wish. This is the one time in your life you can pull the "I am the bride" card
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