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tgrimes75 Subletter	posted 02-18-2004 08:37 AM I need some help, I am giving my sister a bridal shower, we only have the place for 3 hours, it's a buffet. Does she need to open the gifts there at the bridal shower? I was thinking we can offer anyone who wants to go back to the house they are more than welcome to watch her there. IP: Logged
pollyhyper Housesitter	posted 02-19-2004 07:16 AM I would think 3 hours would be a good amount of time to eat as well as open gifts...unless your shower is destined to be much more exciting than ones I have attended. IP: Logged
believe_in_faeries Subletter	posted 02-19-2004 08:09 AM How many people are you inviting? My bridal shower was fairly large and we played some games, and it was less than 3 hours. I opened all the gifts at the shower. IP: Logged
tgrimes75 Subletter	posted 02-19-2004 09:56 AM There are 50 invited, We just wanted to play the toilet paper wedding dress game, the whats in your purse game and how well do you know the groom game and maybe some door prizes, with all the guest there are going to be alot of gifts, and alot of paper for the restaurant to clean up. Have you ever seen a shower where they don't open the gifts there, I never have. At the Wedding you don't and the engagement party they don't either. IP: Logged
pollyhyper Housesitter	posted 02-19-2004 01:28 PM I think with a shower it is traditional to open the gifts there. People like to see the recipient's reaction, and they like to see what other people have gotten for the couple. But there's no reason to fuss all over every single present. Keep your maid of honor on your left with a notepad, to keep track of who gave what, and one or two of your bridesmaids on your right to re-pack each present as you move on to the next. Another idea I think is great: buy your thank-you notes before-hand, and bring the envelopes to the shower. Ask each guest to please fill in their name and address on the front when they get there--that way, they are all addressed later when it's time to write the notes. BTW, your shower games sound like fun! IP: Logged
tgrimes75 Subletter	posted 02-23-2004 07:01 AM Yeh, your right some people do like to see what other people have given, The thank you note idea is great thank you so much for the advice. I'm sure we'll have plenty of time to eat and open gifts since it is a buffet people can eat anytime the want, as soon as they get there or even during the gift giving. thanks again for the info. This was my first time on this site, I love it! IP: Logged
pollyhyper Housesitter	posted 02-23-2004 07:05 AM quote: Originally posted by tgrimes75: This was my first time on this site, I love it! Don't be a stranger!!! IP: Logged
giamaria Housemate	posted 02-23-2004 07:42 AM quote: Originally posted by pollyhyper: I think with a shower it is traditional to open the gifts there. People like to see the recipient's reaction, and they like to see what other people have gotten for the couple. But there's no reason to fuss all over every single present. Keep your maid of honor on your left with a notepad, to keep track of who gave what, and one or two of your bridesmaids on your right to re-pack each present as you move on to the next. Another idea I think is great: buy your thank-you notes before-hand, and bring the envelopes to the shower. Ask each guest to please fill in their name and address on the front when they get there--that way, they are all addressed later when it's time to write the notes. BTW, your shower games sound like fun! Ok, I know it's a timesaver, but as I guest, I have done that addressing thing and I have to say that I think it's a bit, I don't know...offputting. It's like, I'm bringing you a gift, and I have to address my own thank you note? Kinda audacious in my mind. But that's just my .02! IP: Logged
tgrimes75 Subletter	posted 02-23-2004 07:51 AM quote: Originally posted by giamaria: Ok, I know it's a timesaver, but as I guest, I have done that addressing thing and I have to say that I think it's a bit, I don't know...offputting. It's like, I'm bringing you a gift, and I have to address my own thank you note? Kinda audacious in my mind. But that's just my .02! I see your point, but I think it's just somthing special to do for the bride, planning a wedding is very stressful and I think the guest would be pleased to help the bride out and take some stress off her shoulders. aybe if I asked in a way that they wouldn't be offended then it would be ok. IP: Logged
kellyrae Housemate	posted 02-23-2004 10:01 AM I'd be offended to address my own thank-you note! It's not the job of the guest to reduce the bride's stress! If the bride can't handle addressing her own thank-you notes, maybe she needs to think about inviting less people! (Sorry, end Miss Manners mode.) IP: Logged
pollyhyper Housesitter	posted 03-11-2004 06:50 AM Ok, Digsters, I really need your help. My friend, who is a guy, is getting married, and Bekkaboo and I have been invited to the bride's shower. The invitation says "Celebrating the Hours of the Day" and then my invite says "Your hour is 11am" and Bekkaboo's says "Your hour is 5am" and neither of us have ANY IDEA what this means. Anyone heard of such a theme? IP: Logged
pollyhyper Housesitter	posted 03-11-2004 06:52 AM quote: Originally posted by kellyrae: I'd be offended to address my own thank-you note! It's not the job of the guest to reduce the bride's stress! If the bride can't handle addressing her own thank-you notes, maybe she needs to think about inviting less people! (Sorry, end Miss Manners mode.) I didn't see these posts until now. Honestly, it never bothered me when I was asked to address an envelope, and I never noticed it bothering anyone else. I personally thought it was a great idea. But that's a totally legitimate complaint; I guess I could see how some people might find it tacky. IP: Logged
Dewgirl Housesitter	posted 03-11-2004 07:20 AM Pollyhyper- Sure, it's called a "Round-the-clock" shower. Each guest gets assigned a time of day, and you're supposed to buy something you'd use at that time of day. For example... for 11am you could get some sort of kitchen appliance/utensil that she'd use in making lunch/brunch. For 5am, your friend could maybe get her a sleep mask or something (since most reasonable people are out cold at that time). Hope that helps! IP: Logged
Dewgirl Housesitter	posted 03-11-2004 07:24 AM Okay kids... My future mother-in-law has decided she's throwing me a bridal shower (even though I didn't really want one). She wants me to meet the other women in the extended family. But the thing is... my family is in Arizona. I'm in Wisconsin. And if I'm going to have to have a bridal shower, I sure as HECK would want my mother there... I'm her only daughter and to me this is something that I'd want to share with her. I told my FMIL this and she basically said "well, that's her fault for moving to AZ" (but nicer). I was just Who the heck is she to say that... grr. Anyway... any suggestions on how to handle this? My family won't be out here again until the wedding. IP: Logged
pollyhyper Housesitter	posted 03-11-2004 08:28 AM Thanks, Dewgirl, that's pretty much what I figured but I wasn't sure. I think it would have been nice for the person throwing the shower to maybe have explained the theme a little bit. I've been to quite a few showers and never run into this before. Sounds cool, though. I don't know what to tell you about your shower dilemna. No chance of getting Mom to AZ? What about two showers, one in AZ and one in Wisconsin? I understand you probably don't want this AZ shower, but it WILL be a good opportunity to meet the ladies on his side of the family, and you can meet them all at once and get it over with. But at the same time remember this is YOUR wedding, not FMIL's. IP: Logged
Dewgirl Housesitter	posted 03-11-2004 09:36 AM actually it's the other way around... mom is in AZ, and I am in wisconsin. MIL wants to throw a shower in Wisconsin... Unfortunately, nope, no way to get mom to Wisconsin, and I won't be out there before the wedding either. That's the whole reason I didn't want a shower... my mom wouldn't be able to be there, and she's the one who matters most to me. I'm probably getting overly upset about it, but F-MIL has been super. pushy. lately. IP: Logged
lduds Housemate	posted 03-11-2004 11:14 AM tell FMIL that you'd like her to buy a ticket for your mom to fly from AZ to Wisconsin for your shower gift. that's pretty bratty, but showers are important and moms should be there (if they are able). Any chance of her throwing the shower closer to the wedding date so your mom is around? IP: Logged
Dewgirl Housesitter	posted 03-11-2004 11:38 AM Ha! I'd love to do it but Al would probably kill me. It just strikes me as funny because the IL's are being bratty about money even though they are only paying for the rehearsal dinner yet want us to take every single suggestion of theirs. I'm going to talk to my mom about it on Sunday, see what she thinks. for all I know, she might not care... but I still do. IP: Logged
minxx Housemate	posted 07-11-2004 07:50 PM Bumping because... ack, HELP! My mom, in wanting to feel like she's involved in the wedding (she's making me have), she has planned a wedding shower for when I'm flying to visit my family next week. Since I was the 4th person to know about this (yes, it's my shower... can you tell I'm a bit angry about this and a control freak?), she had pretty much everything planned before she even called me. Ok, that's fine. Less for me to do. Here's the problem: we're having a casual BBQ and she's serving hotdogs, potatoe salad, baked beans, and cole slaw. And she makes of me because I live in Arkansas?! See, this anger at the ordinary menu stems from something crowjoy said awhile back that I have come to agree with completely: if what I'm eating is going to go straight to my butt, it had better be damn good. Since I think the menu is quite disgusting and I want to jazz it up just a bit but still stay casual and inexpensive, what kind of menu ideas do ya'll have?! IP: Logged
Merimoo Housemate	posted 07-12-2004 05:07 PM Deviled eggs? IP: Logged
quarkiegirl Housemate	posted 07-12-2004 08:50 PM exotic fruit salad? a funky pasta salad? IP: Logged
noraneither Housemate	posted 07-12-2004 09:14 PM I would definitely add a big tray of fruits like watermelon, pineapple chunks, and whatever else is fresh. Also perhaps a salad with a light, not too oily dressing, or perhaps just a tray of vegetables with a simple dip. The more colorful the menu, the better. IP: Logged
minxx Housemate	posted 07-13-2004 08:51 AM Good ideas!!! The color idea is great. IP: Logged
kena Housesitter	posted 03-22-2005 05:50 PM Moved from another thread: quote: Originally posted by mullygirl: I'd like to plan a unique & easy bridal shower for my brother's fiance. They are getting married in June. She lives 2.5 hours away in the opposite direction of our relatives. Backstory: She has 4 or 5 bridesmaids but no one as yet is planning a shower. None of my relatives who live 1.5-2.5 hours away came to my wedding shower last February. So, here's my idea: I'd like to inform everyone via email/invitations that I'm planning a "welcome to the family" shower. My sister and I will go to the fiance's house, take her to lunch and go get manicures or something fun. How does this idea sound? Is it ok to tell people I'm doing it, list where the couple is registered, and make suggestions for how others could play a part - gift ideas, $ for day of beauty, etc. I have to get this done by mid-April before my sister moves 7 hours away. Any advice or suggestions? quote: Originally posted by geogirl: Sorry, no advice, but kudos to you for picking up the ball that everyone else has dropped! quote: Originally posted by Nakedmarzi: Wow... That's really nice and comendable. Is everyone going to go get manicures? Maybe you could get a group deal. As for gifts, since it's a welcome to the family thing, maybe you could give her something that relates to a family tradition that you guys have. As for food, maybe you guys could have some dishes that are recipes that are in your family.... keep with that theme. For more ideas, you might want to read: What to do at a wedding shower Creative bridal showers Need ideas for bridal shower luncheon [This message has been edited by kena (edited 03-22-2005).] IP: Logged
danamuffin Housemate	posted 03-28-2005 09:43 AM I need some help!! My mom and I are throwing a small, casual Bridal shower for my (soon to be) sister-in-law. The problem is that she doesn�t know my mom�s family very well as she has only met them one time and they make up the majority (if not all) of the guest list. What is a good way to go about making everyone feel comfortable and get to know each other better? I would rather not do the traditional bridal shower games and such. IP: Logged
Nieci Housemate	posted 04-01-2005 10:38 AM Dana, are you inviting her side of the family? Or will it just be yours? One of the things we did at my SIL's bridal shower was a "how well do you know the bride and groom" quiz. We handed out pencils and a sheet of questions about their favorite things/people/trivia, etc. and guests had to guess the answers. The winner won some inexpensive prize, but it went over well - then again, we apparently have matching, cheating families - everyone asking around to see if the person sitting beside them knew the answer. It was fun! IP: Logged
pollyhyper Housesitter	posted 04-01-2005 11:29 AM I think Nieci's right. Games like that (which are not totally stupid) are a great way to get people talking to each other. The game Nieci mentioned is a particularly good one b/c it's accessible for friends and also relatives of all ages - everyone knows a little of this and that about the bride and groom. My friend did this for her sister's shower and everyone had fun, and it got everyone talking. I'll try to remember the questions she asked. IP: Logged
mullygirl Housemate	posted 04-05-2005 01:15 PM I wish I had some good games to contribute, but at my shower my mom had everyone play the game - "Guess how many times my apron got caught on the kitchen knobs." I have a new shower dilemma. Has anyone ever been part of an online shower? It sounds like you are just pointing everyone in the direction of the couple's registry. IP: Logged
geogirl Housemate	posted 04-05-2005 01:29 PM Does $100 sound right to give at a 'money shower' ie. no registry? It's a portuguese wedding, I know they give alot. IP: Logged
danamuffin Housemate	posted 04-07-2005 10:19 AM hmm, never heard of a "money shower" before or an online shower. wow, I'm out of the loop. thanks for all your posts about my dilemma. I've talked to my mom and we've mostly decided to talk and eat. I might find a game or two. Although, if I have time I might put a game together that I did for one my friend's shower a few years ago. It's the same concept as the newlywed game ('cept they're obviously not married yet). I'll videotape the groom/bride answering a bunch of questions....you get the idea. thanks for all your help! IP: Logged
Merimoo Housemate	posted 04-21-2005 04:25 PM bump IP: Logged
cin33331 Subletter	posted 05-24-2005 05:57 AM quote: Originally posted by giamaria: Ok, I know it's a timesaver, but as I guest, I have done that addressing thing and I have to say that I think it's a bit, I don't know...offputting. It's like, I'm bringing you a gift, and I have to address my own thank you note? Kinda audacious in my mind. But that's just my .02! Maybe next time instead of just addressing my envelope, I can also save the recipient time by writing out my own thank you note and telling myself how much I liked the present! IP: Logged
cin33331 Subletter	posted 05-24-2005 05:59 AM quote: Originally posted by giamaria: Ok, I know it's a timesaver, but as I guest, I have done that addressing thing and I have to say that I think it's a bit, I don't know...offputting. It's like, I'm bringing you a gift, and I have to address my own thank you note? Kinda audacious in my mind. But that's just my .02! Next time I'm going to include a note thanking myself and telling myself how much my present was appreciated. IP: Logged
pollyhyper Housesitter	posted 05-24-2005 06:43 AM Glad this was bumped... although I'm not quite sure if the comment that bumped it was intended as snarky or sarcastic or what (next time, explain yourself!) ANYWAY... Another year, another shower theme. This one is: "Since A & B have decided that they can't live without each other, we ask those bringing gifts to bring something they can't live without, and a little note explaining it." I'm thinking zester? But that doesn't seem like a substantial enough gift on its own. IP: Logged
Nessa Housemate	posted 05-24-2005 07:01 AM I just saw this thread for thefirst time. At my cousins shower last year we had guest address their own envelopes with no problem. I think if the bride has one less thing to do and everyone feels like they are helping thatn it is all good. We played "gift bingo" at the shower. the brides mom took the gifts she registered for and made bingo cards with them. Each item was a different square. As she opened stuff you would cross off the item if you had it. There were all different prizes and lots of winners. Someone won their card by gettings "condoms" as the final space. The condoms were from me as a joke gift. I gave them to the bride with a Barry White CD and signed the card from her 2 grandmothers - it was a hoot. IP: Logged
kgsd Housemate	posted 05-24-2005 11:57 AM Nessa, that sounds like a neat game, but what do you do about gifts that they registered for but didn't get at the shower? IP: Logged
Nessa Housemate	posted 05-24-2005 12:12 PM I think she went with ones she knew she was going to get. If you check on the registry you can see what was purchased and it gives you an idea. IP: Logged
pollyhyper Housesitter	posted 05-25-2005 12:08 PM quote: Originally posted by pollyhyper: Glad this was bumped... although I'm not quite sure if the comment that bumped it was intended as snarky or sarcastic or what (next time, explain yourself!) ANYWAY... Another year, another shower theme. This one is: "Since A & B have decided that they can't live without each other, we ask those bringing gifts to bring something they can't live without, and a little note explaining it." I'm thinking zester? But that doesn't seem like a substantial enough gift on its own. This kinda got buried after I posted it, so I'm bumping it up here in hopes of some suggestions... IP: Logged
pollyhyper Housesitter	posted 05-25-2005 12:09 PM quote: Originally posted by pollyhyper: Glad this was bumped... although I'm not quite sure if the comment that bumped it was intended as snarky or sarcastic or what (next time, explain yourself!) ANYWAY... Another year, another shower theme. This one is: "Since A & B have decided that they can't live without each other, we ask those bringing gifts to bring something they can't live without, and a little note explaining it." I'm thinking zester? But that doesn't seem like a substantial enough gift on its own. This kinda got buried after I posted it, so I'm bumping it up here in hopes of some suggestions... IP: Logged

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