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I'm a compulsive planner. I love to plan. I like throwing dinner parties so that I can spend three days plotting and scheduling.
So why didn't I enjoy planning my wedding? Oh, sure, it started out fun, with deciding who to invite and who was to be in the wedding party. But the reality of planning a wedding from three thousand miles away soon kicked in. And, other than the occasional party -- usually casual or small or both -- I'd never planned an event of this size, much less importance, before. As the bride, I knew that I'd be managing this project on my own simply because I am The Planner.
Aside from being the project management, I was the graphic designer, accountant, secretary, phone operator, and receiving department for this particular production. But the project management part was the hardest thing I've ever done.
Our dreams determined several things, like the location of the ceremony, the fact that we wanted to have as many of our family and friends there as possible, and the type of food to be served at the reception. We also determined the theme of the wedding.
After dreaming, I knew that the next big bite of reality would be to determine the budget. Once I had that information, I knew that the budget would be our big limiter and that I would be watching and tracking every cent. Wedding websites like The Knot (www.theknot.com) give the average breakdowns for budgets, but I knew that I wouldn't be spending 20% of my budget on my dress! I'd be using that money for the reception.