A:
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Should
you and your boyfriend decide to do this, of course, proceed
gently, and bear in mind that it is entirely possible that the
bride will be rather miffed indeed. First off, and assuming your
boyfriend has other friends who are attending this wedding, do a
little asking around to see whether other significant others
were included in the invitation – this will help you suss out
whether the omission of your name may have been a mistake.
Once
you’ve done a little research, approach the bride carefully. A
blatant “So is it all right if I bring my girlfriend?”
request is probably not the best way to word things, because it’s entirely possible
that it in fact isn’t all right at all. Don’t be demanding,
don’t get accusatory, don’t act all hurt and offended if it
turns out she really did mean to leave your name off the card.
Instead, have your boyfriend be as honest as possible about how
you both know it’s not socially proper and all, but that he
was wondering whether it might be possible for you, his partner,
to attend the wedding along with him, because you’d both like
to be able to be there to share in their day. Be as nice and as
understanding as possible, and remember: once you decide to ask
for the invite, it’s you, not her, who’s now breaking the
normal rules of social niceties. So if you get the sense she’s
feeling pressured by the two of you, back off immediately,
realize she has the perfect right to answer a big fat no, and
resign yourself to the fact that your boyfriend, should he
choose to go, will just have to attend this event all by his
lonesome.
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