to the boards
what to wear to a
As for black, Iíve seen
many a young lady turn up in black at the weddings Iíve been to, and
for the most part, the general consensus seems to be that thereís
nothing wrong with it. Of course, thereís always a danger you could
run into someone like my mom, who remains adamant about the idea that
black is for funerals, and decidedly inappropriate for any joyous
celebration, even though modern conventions have loosened the old rules.
road trip etiquette
In a few weeks, Iíll be going on a long road trip with friends. My
friend L. has offered her car which makes sense since itís the most
reliable of the available cars. Unfortunately itís also a stick shift
and Iím the only one in the travel group who canít drive stick. I
feel really badly that I wonít be able to drive any leg of the trip.
Any advice on what the best thing to do is to make sure there are no bad
First of all, be upfront
with all your travelmates about your lack of stick-shift skills.
Tell them youíd love to learn how to drive stick, if anyone
has time to teach you before you all embark on your exciting
any of your brave buddies is willing to take you up on the offer
Ė and take on the potential risk of letting a stick novice
strip their gears or ruin the clutch Ė then by all means grab
the opportunity to learn a useful new skill. (Of course, Iím
being a total hypocrite here, as I lived an entire year in
Australia without being able to drive because the only car I had
access to was manual Ė and the two times I tried I was too
traumatized to continue my stick shift education. But Iím a
wienie.) If you havenít acquired the necessary lessons by the
time your trip finally arrives, then the best thing you can do
is offer to pay a little more than your fairshare of gas, and
show up with road trip snacks and beverages aplenty to ensure
that your drivers will be happy and sated throughout the trip.
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