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My boyfriend and I have been invited to attend an engagement party for
one of his co-workers. My question is, are we required to bring a gift?
If so, what kind of a gift would be good? I don’t know these people
well enough to know what they’d like or need.
First of all, let me state that I’m of the opinion that gifts
should never, ever be required – to view the act of
gift-giving as mandatory takes just a little something away from
the generosity aspect of the gesture, doesn’t it?
|But at an
engagement party especially, gifts are generally not expected,
since the couple typically has both the bridal shower and the
wedding itself to allow for ample opportunity for a deluge of
gifts. Toss in the factor that you’re apparently not close
friends with the bride-and-groom-to-be, and I’m sure no one
would bat an eyelash if you arrived with nothing more to offer
than a sincere congratulations and good wishes. If, however, you
just don’t feel right arriving empty-handed, a small token
gift – a nice bottle of champagne or wine, for instance – is
appropriate for just about any occasion, and would no doubt be
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