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10.10.2002: Etiquette Schmetiquette
common-sense manners for real-world living
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dinner guest etiquette ...
Q: Is it good etiquette to bring a gift when invited to dinner at the host’s new home? —Rene'

A:  Barring situations where "gift" is a polite euphemism for "bribery" – in which case, of course, a gift is a very bad idea in terms of propriety, the whole illegal aspect generally being frowned upon by most etiquette mavens -- a thoughtful present is pretty much always a good thing. I doubt there’s been a single host in all of history who ever thought poorly of a guest because said guest arrived at a party with a small token in hand. These days, the housewarming gift is becoming less and less common an occurrence, in my experience — even at gatherings which are explicitly advertised as housewarming parties— which means that few people I know actually expect friends to gift them with anything just because they’ve moved into a new home. So if you’re asking whether a gift is required, the answer is a big ol’ nope, especially given the fact that it’s a dinner party you’re attending, not a housewarming per se. On the other hand, if you arrive at your dinner party with a little something to help the host break in the new digs -- an easy-to-care-for plant in an attractive container is a good, traditional gift, a bottle of wine a good choice for just about any occasion – your gift will no doubt be much appreciated by the host, and its thoughtfulness duly noted.

2 roomies for the price of 1 ...
Hi--I'm writing because for the last two months, I've been getting two roommates for the price of one (this month I demanded that #3--my roommate's boyfriend--start paying 1/3 of the rent, which they thought was unfair but did anyway).

Anyway, while I'm glad he's finally not mooching off of us/me, I'm still highly annoyed by the situation.

I am the original tenant in a two-bedroom and had advertised for 1 female roommate. The girl I ended up offering the place to did not tell me until she came to pick up the key (after the lease was already signed) that her mate was part of the bargain. She said it would be temporary...but it certainly doesn't feel that way now that we're in October (and she moved in at the beginning of August).

Anyway, it came to my attention via my landlord that we are violating the terms of the lease, which says no more than 2 residents in the apartment (he called to find out why the guy was always in the building without her). So he's serving us with a cease or vacate notice TODAY...and I couldn't be more pleased.

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