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when to have a
late or how early should you have a housewarming party? Should it be
when you move in and are settled or should it be in many months when you
have had a chance to landscape and decorate everything.
don't know about you, but if I had waited until my house were
fully landscaped and decorated and everything, I would have
still been holding off on the housewarming a year later. It's up
to you, the proud homeowner, of course, but I think
housewarmings are most fun when the homeowner is still all giddy
and excited about how new everything is. I'd probably wait until
the boxes were unpacked to invite all my bestest buds over for
an open house, but beyond that, I don't see why you have to wait
until everything is absolutely positively perfect (heck, three
and a half years later and there are still things I'd like to
fix up in my little abode) to show off your new digs.
roommate and I share a two bedroom apartment, and we work
together. I moved out when I was 19 and this is her first time
moving out at the age of 30. I feel that she has broken a few
simple rules. I need to know if I am being unreasonable.
- She leaves the dishes she
uses for up to five days. I started washing mine around hers.
However this still makes it difficult for me to cook a meal when the
sink is still full. She thinks I am being unfair because she cleans
all the dishes in the sink when she does clean.
- Her boyfriend has moved in.
He is here 5-7 days a week. I hear them having sex, they have
showers together for up to 45 minutes. She thinks I am being
unreasonable because he lives far away and our place is much closer
to work. I am now single but my boyfriend came over 2-3 times a week
when we were together. She was also seeing someone else at the time
and was always at his place. As a result my boyfriend was never an
issue. Her mother told her that she is paying rent so she should be
able to have her boy friend over as much as she wants. Am I being
unreasonable to say that three days a week is enough?
- I go to bed between 10 to
11:30. For some reason when I say good night she thinks it is an
appropriate time to have a shower and blow dry her hair in the room
next to mine. There so many other times when she can do this. I have
asked her to be considerate and she thinks I am being mean and
- She is talking about me at
work. I find the rest of the misdemeanors acceptable in comparison
to this. My discussions with her have been kept within the realm of
our living arrangement. However she insists on bringing other
peoples opinions into it, and telling me that I have a bad
reputation at work. I have never said a word to her about what
people say to me about her, nor have I solicited their opinions. I
am confident in my own. I also do not say anything because I am
embarrassed by my own lack of judgment when deciding to move in with
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