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wearing black to a wedding ...
I am attending a large, fancy wedding -- for the daughter
of my boss (begins at 5 p.m). Is it permissible to wear black to
weddings these days? (In
December of 2001, I attended the medium-sized wedding of another
daughter of my boss, where the bridesmaids all wore black.)
a large woman, and black is definitely my color.
However, I do not want to commit a great faux pas and
embarrass my boss.
favor of a reply will be GREATLY appreciated.
a girl whose closet features a predominance of black, I hear you
on this dilemma: black is simple, stylish, classic; it looks
great on just about everyone. And if it's a-ok to wear it to a
holiday party -- clearly a festive event -- why not a wedding?
my rather traditional mom has more-or-less conceded that in
modern day America, black seems to be a perfectly fine color to
wear to a wedding. And for an evening wedding in particular,
where women are frequently dressed in more formal cocktail
attire, I’m guessing that you wouldn’t be the only woman
decked out in the ever-popular black dress. So go for it – if
you’re worried about the color not being festive enough, you
can always ward off the lingering no-black-to-wedding-believers
by pairing it with a nice, colored shawl/ wrap/ pashmina-type thing
to brighten up the ensemble.
party guest list ...
We were just engaged and
have not yet finalized our wedding guest list. It's going to be
a small "affair". We're planning an engagement party
to which we would like to invite many of our friends but we
suspect we may not be able to invite them all to the wedding
itself. Can you
invite someone to your engagement party if you're not certain
you can invite them to the wedding?
guest lists are a tricky thing – you want everyone you love to
be there, but then again, your sweetie, your parents, and his
parents generally all feel the same way as well. To keep things
small and intimate, then, compromise is generally a necessity,
the unfortunate result being that you won’t be able to invite
absolutely every single one of your pals … a fact that any
good friend (especially one that’s gone through the headache
of planning a wedding) should be able to understand.
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